There have been people in my life who I made assumptions about how their lives would probably turn out (classmates, relatives, neighbor’s kids, etc). People who were on the periphery of my life, if that makes sense? Acquaintances. Like, maybe, 20 years ago in high school this nice girl had the locker across from mine and without really a thought I figured she’s going to have a minty life - she’ll have it all figured out and have the successful husband and 2.5 kids. Or the friend of a friend in college who had a baby at 18 and I assumed that kid was gonna have it really tough. I didn’t wish it on her, just thought that’s how the world is for a kid in her situation. I don’t know, maybe I’m the only one who makes these weird assumptions about other people’s futures.
I’m just awfully glad that I was wrong. That’s I’m wrong way more often than I’m right. That when I run into the locker girl 20 years later I learn that she has a nice, full life, but one as an only parent by choice and that she absolutely doesn’t have all the answers I thought she would. And through social media I can see that the baby of the teenaged mom has grown into such a polished and admirable young lady with a hugely bright future.
It’s a good reminder of how dumb we can be when we think we have someone figured out because of where they came from or where we think they came from. It’s also a good reminder that despite where and how we start, life is not cut and dry.